Growing up a curly girl in the nineties was not always easy. I had thick, frizzy hair that I didn’t know how to manage. I started really struggling as a pre-teen. Back then there was no internet, tutorials, books, or even a curly mentor to look up to. I just brushed (yes brushed) my curls and even though my hair looked horrible, I didn’t know any better. My go-to look was frizzy hair and bangs with a turtle neck and shorts. Oh my! #hotmess My parents practically begged me to change my look but I didn’t know how. The good, the bad, and the frizzy!
My styling routine was terrible. I use to fry my hair with straightening chemicals and curling irons. I would use the only type of cosmetic oil I could get my hands on, Avon bath oil. I’m embarrassed to admit it but, at times, I would even lay my head on an ironing board to straighten my hair. I had such a complex about my hair that I felt people judged me because of my frizz. I thought in order to look good I had to straighten my hair and get rid of my curls. My poor hair paid the price for all my “beauty” treatments. I was left with fried, dyed, and even frizzier hair than before!
Needless to say, people made fun of my hair all the time, which made me feel insecure about my appearance. I always wanted to look like the other girls with straight hair but I was too young to understand that was not the answer. I needed to embrace my curls, and myself, because that is how God made me.
We sometimes forget how good we have it now. We can easily go to the internet, use social media, watch YouTube, or join curly groups, and get curly hair tips to control our frizz. I now realize that using a natural, non-petroleum based oil is better for my hair. I minimize the use of heating tools to keep it healthy, and reduce their damaging effect. I limit the amount of times per week I wash my hair. If I do style my hair I use a wide tooth wood comb instead of a brush. Today I am happy to say that I love my curls and they are healthy!
All of these hair struggles led me and my husband to create our own hair care line called Darshana. I finally have a hair oil that is natural and controls my curly hair. We talk to a lot of people about their hair journey and try to help in anyway we can. I understand their issues and feel their pain because I went through a lot of ups and downs myself. We want everyone to know they are not alone. Everyone battles hair issues and life in general and we are here to help guide, if we can.
What is your hair journey?